Thursday, July 3, 2014

The Wife of His Youth Book Review

22 February 2013



Mr. Ryder’s Immorality

The question of morality is one that a person struggles with throughout his/her life. 

During the course of living, one is certainly faced with situations that require decisions between 

right and wrong to be made. But, between the two, how does one know which to pick? 

Do you depend on what you feel and believe- the self- or do you seek answers from 

society? Some people choose to listen to society. Society has the ability to shape the 

morality of a person. In The Wife of his Youth, Charles W. Chestnut exemplifies the 

influence a society can have on making moral decisions for some people.

Chestnut constructs a story about a man who builds a life for himself within a 

community, and gains a lot of respect. Mr. Ryder, a man who is part of the Blue Veins 

society, which is a group of mixed colored people, made quite a success of himself. But, 

with his amount of success, he faces a moral dilemma. 

When Mr. Ryder’s life seems to have settled in a comfortable stance, and he feels 

ready to take upon a wife, a woman from his past reappears- the wife of his youth. The 

moral dilemma he faces is choosing between his wife, who he now sees as “very black, 

so black that her toothless gums, revealed when she opened her mouth to speak, were 

not red, but blue. She looked like a bit of the old plantation life, summoned up from the 

past by the wave of a magician’s wand,” (5) and a woman who he knows “would help to 

further the upward process of absorption he had been wishing and waiting for” (3). 

Mr. Ryder, who “might aptly be called the dean of the Blue Veins” (1) is a 

man who has become accustomed to the lifestyle of the Blue Veins community which 

“establish[es] and maintain[s] correct social standards among a people whose social 

condition presented almost unlimited room for improvement” (1). He has built his high 

rank status to fit into this community for most of his adult life. 

Additionally, Ryder is described as a very intelligent man who, even though did 

not join the Blue Veins as early as its other members, was a “genius for social leadership” 

(2) so much “that he had speedily become its recognized adviser and head, the custodian 

of its standards, and the preserver of its traditions” (2). So, does Mr. Ryder appear to be 

a noble and well respectable man? Certainly. After all, he "shaped social policy of the 

Blue Veins, was active in providing for its entertainment, and when the interest fell off, 

as it sometimes did, he fanned the embers until they burst again into a cheerful flame”(2). 

Ryder was indeed a charming man within his society. He was also praised for his skill of 

poetry, “He could repeat whole pages of the great English poets” (2). Ryder must have 

been a man who was good with his words and therefore admired for his speech. Ryder 

seems to reek with nobility according to the way he is described. He appears to be a level 

headed man, who is able to set up moral standards and live by them on his own. He was a 

man who could create sound theories about life and make certain he lived by them. 

For instance, Ryder produced his very own theory about being of mixed race, 

which made him even more admirable within his community. His theory stipulates:

“...we people of mixed blood are ground between the upper and the nether millstone. 

Our fate lies between absorption by the white race and extinction in the black. The one 

doesn't want us yet, but may take us in time”(3). Also diligently adding, “we must do the 

best we can for ourselves and those who are to follow us. Self-preservation is the first law 

of nature”(3). Ryder is encouraging the people of mixed race to know their place within 

society and know what they stand for, thus, preserve themselves by being faithful and 

truthful to who and what they are. 

Also, words echo great insight into the mind of a mixed raced person, and how 

they might view their existence in society. Being in the middle of black and white, a 

person of mixed race could feel a sense of no solid belonging, thus, needing to identify 

with other people who are in his very situation for support and the building of morals 

to strengthen him. Moreover, a man of such words and status was clearly admired for 

his virtuous lifestyle. Ryder appears to be a man of great morals, status, and is well 

respected.

Perhaps, like any other man of high rank, he is expected to always make the right 

decisions whether or not he personally agrees with the idea or not. Mr. Ryder has to 

model his status to the community and be a man of honor. But, could Ryder possibly be 

a man of no morality? It is possible. Mr. Ryder did question taking in his long lost wife, 

because he felt him and her were in completely different worlds then when him and his 

wife married.

During the course of his life, Mr. Ryder finds himself attracted to a woman 

who fits the description of his status. Ryder being from a community where the lighter 

and more educated you are, you are considered as being most achieved and respected, 

admired a woman who “was whiter than he, and better educated. She had moved in the 

best colored society of the country, at Washington, and had taught in the schools of that 

city”(3). This union would appear as perfect. The two appear to have been made for 

each other as, Mr. Ryder “had been regarded as quite a catch, and young ladies and their 

mothers had manÅ“uvred with much ingenuity to capture him”(2). While, Mrs. Molly 

Dixon was “Such a superior person had been eagerly welcomed to the Blue Vein Society, 

and had taken a leading part in its activities”(3).

Moreover, the need to be married to Mrs. Dixon goes further than just satisfying 

a humanistic needs to have a partner. This marriage will to help him climb even higher 

into the ladder of status within his community. Being a man of mixed color, he felt 

as though he needed to keep improving his status to better identify himself within the 

community. This is presumably because “In the United States, race became the main 

form of human identity, and it has had a tragic effect on low-status "racial" minorities and 

on those people who perceive themselves as of "mixed race." (Smedley, par 1). So the 

people of mixed raced, as well as the minorities, always feel the need to love a life that is 

considered as being of high standards or rank. These people have been made to think and 

believe that the way that they should live is through the acceptance of the mannerisms 

and the lifestyle of the white people, so they always try to live up the standards of the 

white race. While talking to his wife, Ryder tries to convince the woman that the man that 

she is looking for has moved on. He adds, “Perhaps he’s outgrown you, and climbed up 

in the world where he wouldn't care to have you find him”(7). 

Partly, Ryder might have denied his wife at first because he did not want to go 

back to the life that he used to live which might be viewed as low class. He might have 

felt that he has grown into becoming someone who is of greater value than he used to be, 

and might feel he is too good to be living with the wife of his youth, whom he does not 

see as precious anymore. Unfortunately, the wife of his youth thinks that her husband 

is a man of greater integrity. In her mind, “Sam ain’ dat kin’ er man” a man who was 

good to his wife even though “he wuzn’ much good ter nobody e’se, fer he wuz one er 

de triflin’es’ han’s on de plantation” (7). Clearly the woman has a different idea of who 

and what Sam is. Ryder has become a person who lives to please other people, mostly his 

Blue Vein community. But, what moral role should Ryder play in his wife’s life now as 

Mr. Ryder?

The wife of his youth spent twenty-five years believing that “he’s be’n huntin’ fer 

me all dese years,‘less’n he’s be’n sick er sump’n, so he couldn’ work, er out’n his head, 

so he couldn’ ‘member his promise”(5). This woman from his past deserved to be told 

the truth about the man she thought was looking for her all these years, but wasn’t. So, 

was Ryder’s decision to deny his wife at first, then accept her after the approval of his 

community a moral one or not? To answer this question, morality needs to be defined and 

analysed first in order to determine whether this decision was moral or not. 

The morality of a person is defined by examining a person’s character. In order 

to determine whether or not a person is moral there should be a question of whether the 

purpose in virtuous or not. In philosophy, the theory of virtue ethics states, a person “can 

experience fear, confidence, desire, anger, pity, and generally any kind of pleasure and 

pain.... But to experience all this at the right time, and toward the right objects, toward 

the right people, for the right reason, and in the right manner... is the mark of virtue” 

(Pojman, 173). And, since a virtuous person is one that performs moral actions based 

on his moral character, making the right decisions at the right time, for the right reasons 

means that the person is being moral. 

Therefore, Ryder could not make a decision solely on his own but, instead, sought 

to find answers from his community. Ryder was unable to take up his own character and 

practice morality by accepting his wife the moment the woman came to his doorstep 

looking for him. 

In conclusion, Ryder did make a bad decision by thinking about denying his wife. 

This is the point where one can question if Ryder is moral or not. But, a person cannot be 

judged on the thoughts that he has as long as the act of being immoral is not performed. 

Maybe his seeking advice from the community was a way for him to make certain that 

he is doing the right thing, even though it would have been more pleasing if he had the 

ability to make that moral decision on his own. It seems, the reason that Ryder decided to 

take his wife back in, is guilt. Ryder felt some kind of remorse for the woman who had 

spent twenty- five years of her life waiting for a man who clearly went on with his, and 

forgot about the wife of his youth.

So, this does not make Ryder a bad person because, “Having sinned, “good” people 

feel intense remorse, and regret a grinding force of shame, and denouncement of self” 

(Greenberg, Koole & Pyszczynski, 156). Because Ryder felt some remorse and guilt for 

denying his wife, this did lead him to making a moral decision. 


Works Cited:

Greenberg, Jeff, Sander Leon Koole, and Thomas A. Pyszczynski. Handbook of

Experimental Existential Psychology. New York: Guilford, 2004. Print.

Pojman, Louis P. How Should We Live: An Introduction to Ethics. Australia:

Thomson/Wadsworth, 2005. Print.

Smedley, Audrey. ""Race" and the Construction of Human Identity." Online Library.

Wiley Online Library, 1999-2013. Web. 21 Feb. 2013.

Thursday, October 31, 2013

Bean Bag Selection for the Fall

Fall is Here!

Unfortunately, the days are quickly getting shorter! This is a sad fact for those of you who like to spend hours on outdoor activities but, it's something that can be turned quickly into a positive. How? Simple. You can bring the outdoor activities inside! Well, of coarse this might be impossible for some activities such as hiking but, it would be fun to try out some doable ones like playing hide and seek!

While you are thinking about which activities that can be brought indoors this fall and shortly into the winter time, you can also consider how to appropriately "equip" your house with some lovely furniture to create that warm and fun atmosphere for your family. There are simple steps to creating the cheerful atmosphere in your home, especially if you have a big, playful family. Here are four tips for this fall.

  • Warmth
  • Colour
  • Texture
  • Comfort

Now, the first two (warmth & colour) go hand-in-hand really. You can create a warm environment by a smart selection of bright warm colours such as yellow, orange, and pink. The same way you can create a very dark and dull atmosphere with black, dark brown, or navy. Of course, you can have a combination of dark and bright colours to create a warm atmosphere with, again, a very smart selection of a variety of colours. Below is a beautiful example of a nice indoor decor for the fall to really, give you an idea of how colour coordination can work wonders to create a warm and cosy look for your home!

"Rustic Ruby + Khaki"
(Better Homes)
In the above picture is a gorgeous colour scheme or bright colours and undertones. Now, also notice that the room is not heavily furnished yet it looks stunning! The new way to really decorate your home beautifully is less furniture but more colour. Even if you just prefer to have more in your living room, the trick is to have complementary colours, just like the orange, khaki, brown, red, and greens that we see in this ravishing living-room. So, pick your colours wisely and you can also achieve similar results in your home! Doesn't it look like summertime still in this living room? That's what I want my living room to look all year round!

Next on the list to a beautiful in-home look for this fall is, texture and comfort. Now, the trick to textures really depends on the kind of feel you want to create. Spaces that have no texture somewhat appear bland but, they can also be sophisticated. Some people might try and avoid too much texture or, any texture at all, for the sake of having a room look sophisticated and not comical.
But, there is a way in which one can play around with textures and, still get that sophisticated look for your home. You can play around with textures from things that you decide to hang on your walls, all the way to what you choose to put on your floors. You can mix leather with fur, stone with feathers- absolutely anything! The trick is just combining the selected textures to create the desired look and feel to your living space. Below is a neat example of texture created simply with a plain yellow wall and a bunch of white sculptural items.

"Unneutralize the Neutral"
(HGTV)
Notice the colour selection in this amazing choice of decoration? The yellow and white create a warm, really cosy feel in this piece. This is something that might aid in turning your living space into a pleasantly warm area for this fall! So, if you take these few tips and put them to practice, you will be fully prepared for the fall.  Not just the fall, you can apply these simple tips for any season!

Now, back to bringing the outdoors inside. If you have a big family, or a playful family, you do want to appropriately accessorize your home to accommodate the season, as well as everyone in you family. One thing about a big family- too much stuff! So, you really want to eliminate the big things that crowd your living space and, replace them with smaller things. You want more places to sit that take up much less space than a three-sitter or two-sitter couch, for instance. So, how do you "downsize" on furniture to create more space AND colour coordination to welcome the fall? Too much to think about right? Not really.

Some simple fun, and not so expensive ways to do this is replacing your big seats with little seats but, at the same time providing more living space. This can be done through bean bags! The fun thing about bean bags is, they incorporate each and every tip mentioned above to improve the entire look of your living space. How? Bean bags can bring bright colours into your room, they can bring texture, thus, warmth and comfort! You can look at bean bags as 'adding pillows on your bed or cushions on your couch' because, it is just a simple. It a smart, and inexpensive way to decorate your living area. Here are some pictures with ideas of how to include bean bags to "spice" up your living area.




What a bean bag does really is to bring this idea of using a small object to light up the entire room! Although it might be a really tempting idea to just buy brand new furniture to completely change your entire house and, have it look just as exquisite as these above pictures do, it might be a bit extreme, and not to mention expensive. You can always just pick out a few tiny items to accentuate your living room, such as bean bags, and achieve the same results!

So, go out there (before it gets too cold out) and purchase these little items and get ready for the cold season! Also, be prepared to spend hours and hours indoors in your lovely, warm, comfortable and cosy living space! And don't forget to Pick a Bean Bag!!